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Monday - The Update of Champions.
Aug. 30th, 2004 12:53 pmWell it finally happened. Today I went no-mail on Nummy Treat. I'm feeling okay with this - cause dude - I was deleting the digest practically every other day rather than read it and when I did read it, weird indigestion-y things would happen to me and today was the day. I acknowledge and accept that the majority of of list members and I share very different values toward this medium. Which is fine and dandy, and now that they are trying the vividsection in channel (announced on vidders and the vividcon lists) that seems like something I would much rather spend my time on. Hence - I chose the no mail option.
So if anything good happens - like we get called a bunch of braying asses - please tell me. I'll hop over and catch up.
Yesterday I took it upon myself to save one of![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
drdawn's dates from, well, Dawn. I was literally saying - "No listen - it is really not you. It is her. And really, you need to run!" Normally, I don't feel a moral imperative to save her potential suitors from a ruin of self-esteem, but then this guy said that "Donnie Darko" was one of his favorite movies - so he has to be good people. And I do think I have an almost evolutionarily derived instinctual drive to protect one of my own. And then I had to explain to him that yes - "She is a good person, and she is very smart and obviously attractive, but, and I am saying this as her sister, she will DESTROY YOU."
So then he gets the misconception that it is because he is a nice guy (and no really - it is because he is a nice guy that I am bothering to explain any of this - also, I think he would be a great friend for Dawn to have, so I'm trying to keep him in the group) and Dawn is one of these girls that is only attracted to jerks.
And how does one explain, in a very matter of fact way, that it is not that her sister is only attracted to men that act like jerks toward women - it is that her sister is a woman who acts like a jerk toward men? Cause really - getting that across and not crossing the line into bad-mouthing a relative is very hard. And I don't mean this in a negative light at all toward Dawn. I don't think that this is a failure of her as a person- this is just how she is and that means she does not always take the care with other people's feelings that they need. This is more their issue than hers as she is perfectly happy with the same kind of treatment in reciprocation. See? She gets that sometimes people can be hurt or misunderstand her so she will try to make an effort - but it is very tiring for her and she just isn't at 100% yet. It isn't that she doesn't care - she just doesn't see it - it does not come naturally to her.
So, she needs to date a jerk cause chances are he can take it. Or maybe what we define as a jerk really isn't a jerk - it is just someone with a different set of priorities and values in a relationship and if that person is well-matched with another, than neither of them are jerks - they are just that wacky couple down the street.
Yes - the "jerk" designation only comes to play when the jerk in question has been actively lying or misleading another. And often you have to consider the source cause a lot of people - men and women - only hear what they want to hear.
But it is hard explaining to a dude, "Look - she is Brian Kinney!" when dude has no idea who Brian Kinney is.
I guess I could marathon Season one of QaF with him...
In other news - my X-Files vid has stalled at about 75% completion. This is not unusual for me - I'll put it away for a while. What is unusual is I don't know why it is stalled. I think I am just tired of it - which does not bode well for the entertainment value of the vid. Just cause someone has a story to tell and a statement to make - doesn't mean you should. I'm still learning this, btw.
In other other news - I am Jay Farrar's bitch. Just so you know. I mean - I really tried not to be - but he got me early.
In other other related news - I am having so much fun making this mix forsdwolfpup, but day-am - it is a lot of work and I am still in the listening/making notes stage... but I think I actually have a theme! An honest to goodness theme and heres_luck will be so proud! Now I just have to figure out if The Roots transition as well into Emmylou Harris as I think, or if that is just me.
In other other not related to any of this news:seperis wrote a new Clark/Lex fic and sigh. I love her Clark. I do. This one involves walking many blocks, missing shoes, everything going wrong that possibly can and a very wet Lex. Also - there is porn. She is just the best.
It almost makes up for the fact thatrageprufrock thinks she can just go do whatever she wants (selfish selfish taking all those hours of school) and leave us hanging with "Conflicts of Interest." Dammit. She acts like studying and going to classes and having a life is more important than my next fix. The nerve.
And in final news that has even less to do with any of this at all: Whoever kidnappedpermetaform's fish - will you please either return it or issue a ransom note? You are freaking out all of LJ.
Final final thoughts: I managed to miss the entire Olympics. Well except for the bit I caught at VVC. Then I forgot all about it while at home. I truly live in a bubble. A bubble filled with pretty broody men and soundtracked by Uncle Tupelo.
Life could be much worse.
ETA: Apparently it is the consensus now that permetaform's fish ascended - hence no body. Now, the jury is still out on whether it was a good kind of ascension - like Daniel, or a bad kind - like Cordy. Since her fish does not have my haircut - we cannot know for certain until it returns. His name is Vash. I'm expecting him any day now.
ETA 2: You know The Boy has been saying for a while now that Vash is a Christ-Figure (since I explained the arch-type to him while watching Smallville last year, finding the Jesus has been his hobby) and now we finally have a chance to know for sure.
So if anything good happens - like we get called a bunch of braying asses - please tell me. I'll hop over and catch up.
Yesterday I took it upon myself to save one of
drdawn's dates from, well, Dawn. I was literally saying - "No listen - it is really not you. It is her. And really, you need to run!" Normally, I don't feel a moral imperative to save her potential suitors from a ruin of self-esteem, but then this guy said that "Donnie Darko" was one of his favorite movies - so he has to be good people. And I do think I have an almost evolutionarily derived instinctual drive to protect one of my own. And then I had to explain to him that yes - "She is a good person, and she is very smart and obviously attractive, but, and I am saying this as her sister, she will DESTROY YOU."So then he gets the misconception that it is because he is a nice guy (and no really - it is because he is a nice guy that I am bothering to explain any of this - also, I think he would be a great friend for Dawn to have, so I'm trying to keep him in the group) and Dawn is one of these girls that is only attracted to jerks.
And how does one explain, in a very matter of fact way, that it is not that her sister is only attracted to men that act like jerks toward women - it is that her sister is a woman who acts like a jerk toward men? Cause really - getting that across and not crossing the line into bad-mouthing a relative is very hard. And I don't mean this in a negative light at all toward Dawn. I don't think that this is a failure of her as a person- this is just how she is and that means she does not always take the care with other people's feelings that they need. This is more their issue than hers as she is perfectly happy with the same kind of treatment in reciprocation. See? She gets that sometimes people can be hurt or misunderstand her so she will try to make an effort - but it is very tiring for her and she just isn't at 100% yet. It isn't that she doesn't care - she just doesn't see it - it does not come naturally to her.
So, she needs to date a jerk cause chances are he can take it. Or maybe what we define as a jerk really isn't a jerk - it is just someone with a different set of priorities and values in a relationship and if that person is well-matched with another, than neither of them are jerks - they are just that wacky couple down the street.
Yes - the "jerk" designation only comes to play when the jerk in question has been actively lying or misleading another. And often you have to consider the source cause a lot of people - men and women - only hear what they want to hear.
But it is hard explaining to a dude, "Look - she is Brian Kinney!" when dude has no idea who Brian Kinney is.
I guess I could marathon Season one of QaF with him...
In other news - my X-Files vid has stalled at about 75% completion. This is not unusual for me - I'll put it away for a while. What is unusual is I don't know why it is stalled. I think I am just tired of it - which does not bode well for the entertainment value of the vid. Just cause someone has a story to tell and a statement to make - doesn't mean you should. I'm still learning this, btw.
In other other news - I am Jay Farrar's bitch. Just so you know. I mean - I really tried not to be - but he got me early.
In other other related news - I am having so much fun making this mix for
sdwolfpup, but day-am - it is a lot of work and I am still in the listening/making notes stage... but I think I actually have a theme! An honest to goodness theme and heres_luck will be so proud! Now I just have to figure out if The Roots transition as well into Emmylou Harris as I think, or if that is just me. In other other not related to any of this news:
seperis wrote a new Clark/Lex fic and sigh. I love her Clark. I do. This one involves walking many blocks, missing shoes, everything going wrong that possibly can and a very wet Lex. Also - there is porn. She is just the best. It almost makes up for the fact that
rageprufrock thinks she can just go do whatever she wants (selfish selfish taking all those hours of school) and leave us hanging with "Conflicts of Interest." Dammit. She acts like studying and going to classes and having a life is more important than my next fix. The nerve. And in final news that has even less to do with any of this at all: Whoever kidnapped
permetaform's fish - will you please either return it or issue a ransom note? You are freaking out all of LJ. Final final thoughts: I managed to miss the entire Olympics. Well except for the bit I caught at VVC. Then I forgot all about it while at home. I truly live in a bubble. A bubble filled with pretty broody men and soundtracked by Uncle Tupelo.
Life could be much worse.
ETA: Apparently it is the consensus now that permetaform's fish ascended - hence no body. Now, the jury is still out on whether it was a good kind of ascension - like Daniel, or a bad kind - like Cordy. Since her fish does not have my haircut - we cannot know for certain until it returns. His name is Vash. I'm expecting him any day now.
ETA 2: You know The Boy has been saying for a while now that Vash is a Christ-Figure (since I explained the arch-type to him while watching Smallville last year, finding the Jesus has been his hobby) and now we finally have a chance to know for sure.
