Monday - The Update of Champions.

[sisabet]

Well it finally happened. Today I went no-mail on Nummy Treat. I'm feeling okay with this - cause dude - I was deleting the digest practically every other day rather than read it and when I did read it, weird indigestion-y things would happen to me and today was the day. I acknowledge and accept that the majority of of list members and I share very different values toward this medium. Which is fine and dandy, and now that they are trying the vividsection in channel (announced on vidders and the vividcon lists) that seems like something I would much rather spend my time on. Hence - I chose the no mail option.

So if anything good happens - like we get called a bunch of braying asses - please tell me. I'll hop over and catch up.

Yesterday I took it upon myself to save one of drdawn's dates from, well, Dawn. I was literally saying - "No listen - it is really not you. It is her. And really, you need to run!" Normally, I don't feel a moral imperative to save her potential suitors from a ruin of self-esteem, but then this guy said that "Donnie Darko" was one of his favorite movies - so he has to be good people. And I do think I have an almost evolutionarily derived instinctual drive to protect one of my own. And then I had to explain to him that yes - "She is a good person, and she is very smart and obviously attractive, but, and I am saying this as her sister, she will DESTROY YOU."

So then he gets the misconception that it is because he is a nice guy (and no really - it is because he is a nice guy that I am bothering to explain any of this - also, I think he would be a great friend for Dawn to have, so I'm trying to keep him in the group) and Dawn is one of these girls that is only attracted to jerks.

And how does one explain, in a very matter of fact way, that it is not that her sister is only attracted to men that act like jerks toward women - it is that her sister is a woman who acts like a jerk toward men? Cause really - getting that across and not crossing the line into bad-mouthing a relative is very hard. And I don't mean this in a negative light at all toward Dawn. I don't think that this is a failure of her as a person- this is just how she is and that means she does not always take the care with other people's feelings that they need. This is more their issue than hers as she is perfectly happy with the same kind of treatment in reciprocation. See? She gets that sometimes people can be hurt or misunderstand her so she will try to make an effort - but it is very tiring for her and she just isn't at 100% yet. It isn't that she doesn't care - she just doesn't see it - it does not come naturally to her.

So, she needs to date a jerk cause chances are he can take it. Or maybe what we define as a jerk really isn't a jerk - it is just someone with a different set of priorities and values in a relationship and if that person is well-matched with another, than neither of them are jerks - they are just that wacky couple down the street.

Yes - the "jerk" designation only comes to play when the jerk in question has been actively lying or misleading another. And often you have to consider the source cause a lot of people - men and women - only hear what they want to hear.

But it is hard explaining to a dude, "Look - she is Brian Kinney!" when dude has no idea who Brian Kinney is.

I guess I could marathon Season one of QaF with him...

In other news - my X-Files vid has stalled at about 75% completion. This is not unusual for me - I'll put it away for a while. What is unusual is I don't know why it is stalled. I think I am just tired of it - which does not bode well for the entertainment value of the vid. Just cause someone has a story to tell and a statement to make - doesn't mean you should. I'm still learning this, btw.

In other other news - I am Jay Farrar's bitch. Just so you know. I mean - I really tried not to be - but he got me early.

In other other related news - I am having so much fun making this mix for sdwolfpup, but day-am - it is a lot of work and I am still in the listening/making notes stage... but I think I actually have a theme! An honest to goodness theme and heres_luck will be so proud! Now I just have to figure out if The Roots transition as well into Emmylou Harris as I think, or if that is just me.

In other other not related to any of this news: seperis wrote a new Clark/Lex fic and sigh. I love her Clark. I do. This one involves walking many blocks, missing shoes, everything going wrong that possibly can and a very wet Lex. Also - there is porn. She is just the best.

It almost makes up for the fact that rageprufrock thinks she can just go do whatever she wants (selfish selfish taking all those hours of school) and leave us hanging with "Conflicts of Interest." Dammit. She acts like studying and going to classes and having a life is more important than my next fix. The nerve.

And in final news that has even less to do with any of this at all: Whoever kidnapped permetaform's fish - will you please either return it or issue a ransom note? You are freaking out all of LJ.

Final final thoughts: I managed to miss the entire Olympics. Well except for the bit I caught at VVC. Then I forgot all about it while at home. I truly live in a bubble. A bubble filled with pretty broody men and soundtracked by Uncle Tupelo.

Life could be much worse.

ETA: Apparently it is the consensus now that permetaform's fish ascended - hence no body. Now, the jury is still out on whether it was a good kind of ascension - like Daniel, or a bad kind - like Cordy. Since her fish does not have my haircut - we cannot know for certain until it returns. His name is Vash. I'm expecting him any day now.

ETA 2: You know The Boy has been saying for a while now that Vash is a Christ-Figure (since I explained the arch-type to him while watching Smallville last year, finding the Jesus has been his hobby) and now we finally have a chance to know for sure.

Comments

[tzikeh.livejournal.com]

(since I explained the arch-type to him while watching Smallville last year, finding the Jesus has been his hobby)

I see a big market opening for "Where's Jesus?" books.

[sisabet.livejournal.com]

According to the RNC he is in the White House. Course - I feel like I know Jesus and that ain't Jesus, but to each their own.

[luminosity]

Yep, I know Jesus too, and I'm right there with you. He's just another poor unfortunate who thinks he's God's gift. Poor deluded thing.

[soundingsea.livejournal.com]

I want to be Brian Kinney.

Also, are there other fish? Hungry-looking fish, who maybe aren't so hungry anymore?

[sisabet.livejournal.com]

Being Brian Kinney is not all that it is cracked up to be. You have to be of that personality type to even make a go of it. Trust me. Being Other Than Brian Kinney is a perfectly valid and good life-style choice.

And I think the fish was alone. Alone and plotting to abscond, apparently...

[renenet.livejournal.com]

My family had a goldfish named "Dude" lived in a mini-aquarium on the kitchen counter near the pass-through into the dining room. Below the counter on the dining room side was a built-in desk. One night my father was awakened from sleep by someone calling for help. Or so he thought. Staggering into the dining room and flipping on the light he saw Dude flopping across the desk. Dad lunged forward and caught the fish just as he went off the edge of the desk. A trail of water led back toward the aquarium, and Dad pointed it out to the rest of us once we got up in the morning. Family lore has it that the fish was calling for help, aided by God. (The parents were still in their born-again Christian period at this time.) What if the minions of Satan were trying to abduct poor little Dude and dropped him when the light went on? Or what if God was trying to Rapture him, but he didn't want to go? You never know with God and fish.

ah the mystery that is Brian, um, I mean Dawn

[truthseekersara.livejournal.com]

Just tell him that it's not that Dawn likes jerks. It's that she is only attracted to someone that is even less committed to the relationship than she is.
That doesn't mean "playing hard to get", it means BEING hard to get.
In other words, the only guys who Dawn chases are the ones who don't want to be caught.

Re: ah the mystery that is Brian, um, I mean Dawn

[drdawn.livejournal.com]

Shut up.

Great to know everyone has insight about me but me.

Re: ah the mystery that is Brian, um, I mean Dawn

[sisabet.livejournal.com]

Oh please, you have already accepted this and moved on.

Re: ah the mystery that is Brian, um, I mean Dawn

[sisabet.livejournal.com]

I love it when you have free time and read my LJ and I get a series of comments.

And yes - you understand Dawn completely. So much so that when I am talking to Dawn now and she says "I do blah and blah and blah because of blah" and it is remotely insightful I automatically ask, "You've been talking to Truthseekersara about this - haven't you?"

[kitkatbyte.livejournal.com]

I'm on Digest for Nummy Treat. But I mostly just skim to make sure there's no spam or flame wars, and I haven't watched a vid from there in a long time... I'm too busy to even care about the list anymore, you know? So I don't blame you.. hell, I'm surprised you weren't *already* on no-mail.