You thought you were tone-deaf? No shit! That's wild.
One thing I didn't mention in my discussion with you earlier is the question of volume -- that not only does how people frame their comments matter ( the ones where people tell you that you won them over, for instance, being nicer than the ones that labor on and on about how much they hate your song), but also how many times you have to hear it. I always really appreciated that you said "YOu had me at John Hiatt" about the challenge show Firefly vid last year, because you can't imagine how many people have felt compelled to tell me how much they dislike the song. the first couple times, it's easier to go, hey, it's fb, so cool, I can get over the harshing. But after the fifteenth time? Not necessary. Plus, a lot of the time... it doesn't even have anything to do with the fb. It's just that they felt compelled to say they hated the song.
Same with My Beautiful Reward -- everyone has to tell me how much they loathe Springsteen first. Even if it has nothing to do with anything else in the fb. And seriously, the 50th time I heard that, it was... at that point, I coud no longer find joy in the comments. It seemed as if the whole wide fannish world was agin me. I was all, nobody loves me, everybody hates me, guess I'll go eat some worms. I know that people are often giving fb in a vacuum -- they have no idea what others are saying. Which I guess is why I often ask myself now, "Do I need to explain to the vidder that I hate her music? Is it relevant to the feedback?" If I honestly can't say that it is, if it's more of a "you won me over" I will try to just leave the winning over part out. I will just focus on the fact that yes, I loved the vid. They don't need to know necessarily that I wasn't keen on the moosic.
OTOH, if I think that the vidder is making a bad song choice or their selection makes a huge difference in how I perceive the vid, then I will factor that in, and frame the comments around that. And never, never start out with, "Well, normally I hate x and such, but..." I save the negative for after the positive.
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Date: 2005-06-17 08:34 pm (UTC)One thing I didn't mention in my discussion with you earlier is the question of volume -- that not only does how people frame their comments matter ( the ones where people tell you that you won them over, for instance, being nicer than the ones that labor on and on about how much they hate your song), but also how many times you have to hear it. I always really appreciated that you said "YOu had me at John Hiatt" about the challenge show Firefly vid last year, because you can't imagine how many people have felt compelled to tell me how much they dislike the song. the first couple times, it's easier to go, hey, it's fb, so cool, I can get over the harshing. But after the fifteenth time? Not necessary. Plus, a lot of the time... it doesn't even have anything to do with the fb. It's just that they felt compelled to say they hated the song.
Same with My Beautiful Reward -- everyone has to tell me how much they loathe Springsteen first. Even if it has nothing to do with anything else in the fb. And seriously, the 50th time I heard that, it was... at that point, I coud no longer find joy in the comments. It seemed as if the whole wide fannish world was agin me. I was all, nobody loves me, everybody hates me, guess I'll go eat some worms. I know that people are often giving fb in a vacuum -- they have no idea what others are saying. Which I guess is why I often ask myself now, "Do I need to explain to the vidder that I hate her music? Is it relevant to the feedback?" If I honestly can't say that it is, if it's more of a "you won me over" I will try to just leave the winning over part out. I will just focus on the fact that yes, I loved the vid. They don't need to know necessarily that I wasn't keen on the moosic.
OTOH, if I think that the vidder is making a bad song choice or their selection makes a huge difference in how I perceive the vid, then I will factor that in, and frame the comments around that. And never, never start out with, "Well, normally I hate x and such, but..." I save the negative for after the positive.