Oh, sweetie. *gloms you and hugs you and brings you cool lemonade and tiny delicious sandwiches and rubs your shoulders*
I'm sorry that happened, at the carwash. I can imagine how you felt, and I totally get why you would take that so hard. Gah. I would have done the same thing, I'm sure. It would never occur to me to run over and tell someone not to give me especially nice treatment like that -- I'd be so happy that someone was doing their job well, and I would totally respond by tipping them, which is the proper way for a customer to respond in that situation. It is totally the fault of the management that this information is not being communicated. If time and situation permitted, I guess the other thing a customer might do in that situation is, in addition to tipping, go and tell the manager or owner that you appreciate the extra service, and that you will definitely return and buy more services in the future. But nothing you could have done is going to change the fundamental problem there, which is communication/lack of compassion, and that just... yeah. It gets you down. {{{{hugs you some more}}}}
I wonder if maybe the reason you feel more comfortable being less than sunny and perfect all the time in LJ is that we know the things you're really passionate about? We know some of the brightest and shiniest parts of you, and nothing is going to make us love you less, so you are safe blowing off steam here. Just a thought. I think it's okay to compartmentalize like that. But man, I sympathize with that feeling of being in a room with a big group of people and suddenly realizing that none of them really know what makes you tick, at all.
It was good to see you post about your current projects yesterday. Sounds like you are paring things down and organizing your creative brain, which is a good feeling. *love*
I've watched Golden Years about 20 times since you sent it to me. I... can't... stop! *is dead of the Angel/Spike love*
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Date: 2005-05-12 06:30 pm (UTC)I'm sorry that happened, at the carwash. I can imagine how you felt, and I totally get why you would take that so hard. Gah. I would have done the same thing, I'm sure. It would never occur to me to run over and tell someone not to give me especially nice treatment like that -- I'd be so happy that someone was doing their job well, and I would totally respond by tipping them, which is the proper way for a customer to respond in that situation. It is totally the fault of the management that this information is not being communicated. If time and situation permitted, I guess the other thing a customer might do in that situation is, in addition to tipping, go and tell the manager or owner that you appreciate the extra service, and that you will definitely return and buy more services in the future. But nothing you could have done is going to change the fundamental problem there, which is communication/lack of compassion, and that just... yeah. It gets you down. {{{{hugs you some more}}}}
I wonder if maybe the reason you feel more comfortable being less than sunny and perfect all the time in LJ is that we know the things you're really passionate about? We know some of the brightest and shiniest parts of you, and nothing is going to make us love you less, so you are safe blowing off steam here. Just a thought. I think it's okay to compartmentalize like that. But man, I sympathize with that feeling of being in a room with a big group of people and suddenly realizing that none of them really know what makes you tick, at all.
It was good to see you post about your current projects yesterday. Sounds like you are paring things down and organizing your creative brain, which is a good feeling. *love*
I've watched Golden Years about 20 times since you sent it to me. I... can't... stop! *is dead of the Angel/Spike love*