When I express an opinion, that is not one commonly shared, then I am upsetting them.
This puzzles me. My partner says the same thing: when we disagree, he finds it upsetting, some sort of indication that we are not good together, or something. For many years, I've been of the mind that disagreement is healthy, that varied opinions are just that: opinions. That differences need not be upsetting.
I guess this is the minority view, though. And of course, the more passionately held the opinions are, the more likely different ones are to upset people.
I see your dilemma, though. You don't want them to go on being duped, and yet you don't want them to be upset with you, either. I don't know what I'd do, in your shoes.
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Date: 2004-12-27 11:56 pm (UTC)This puzzles me. My partner says the same thing: when we disagree, he finds it upsetting, some sort of indication that we are not good together, or something. For many years, I've been of the mind that disagreement is healthy, that varied opinions are just that: opinions. That differences need not be upsetting.
I guess this is the minority view, though. And of course, the more passionately held the opinions are, the more likely different ones are to upset people.
I see your dilemma, though. You don't want them to go on being duped, and yet you don't want them to be upset with you, either. I don't know what I'd do, in your shoes.